Confused In Relationship Ten Years
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Confused In Relationship Ten Years
| Wed, 07-14-2004 - 12:47pm |
Hi all I am new here and I guess I am just looking for some advice, this may be lengthy so I am sorry. I am 26 years old and I know that is still young. I have been dating my boyfriend for ten years, we started dated when I was 16 he is only 6 months older than me, anyway after that first year he gave me an enagment ring and wrote me the sweetest letter saying that he wanted to be with me forever and he loved me you know all that sweet stuff, Well in a way I am glad we didn't get married around 21/22, but now I truly feel ready to settle down and start our life together, I mean I would love to have childern before I am 35, I try to bring marriage and our future up to him , and he always says first things first meaning he wants to get a house which I understand, but his parents are moving out of state next year and we are going to buy that house, so I ask him if we could set the date for 2006 giving us plenty of time to get things in order and the answer I still get is first things first, and I keep trying to tell him that I need at least 6 months to plan the wedding, I am thinking maybe he is scared of change to, because he told me the other day that he was always scared that after we got married I would let myself go and I was already starting to do that, I am not I mean I may not dress up everyday or wear make up 24/7 but come on women get tired sometimes, I just don;t know how to convince him that everything will be ok, or get him to set a date, I am beginning to think I am not doing something right, I think I have been pretty good I have only been with him this past ten years, I have never cheated or did anything purposly to hurt him, I mean i think I am a good girl, One more question he has a couple of girls that call his cell phone and this girls know that I don;t like it , this girls are not just friends calling to talk they are calling to try and get him to go out and I have even ask him how hard is it to tell this girls that you are happy with me and to not call anymore, Am I being stupid for being a little upset by them calling or should I confort this girls myself? This would not be so hard if we have not dated so long, but when you have been with someone 10 years thats alot of your life invested in one person. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. By the way we don't live together because I told him I would not do that and we do not have any childern so it is just us. I live at home and he lives at home .
Thanks
Angelastarr
