Confused - Who's in the wrong??
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Confused - Who's in the wrong??
| Thu, 06-17-2004 - 1:50pm |
I have been involved with this man for almost 2 years. I spent a weekend at his place n while he was sleeping, I was playing around on his computer. I came across a list of 'partners'. My name was on the list but was placed at the second last one. Beside the last womans name on the list was " (fat chick from July 2003 long weekend)" That was suppose to be a guys only weekend with him and his buddies. He hasnt told me anything about this. How am I suppose to go on having a so called happy and loving relationship with this man knowing what he did? Knowing that he cheated on me and didnt even have the balls to tell me. How do I question him about it? I know it was wrong for me to look on his computer, but isnt it also wrong that he did this to me?

What do you want to do? Stay, work it out, talk to him, go to counseling OR just end it?
Carrie
Oh, one more thing...are you sure he's only told you that he loves you? Were you there for his other relationships or are you just taking his word for it?
Hope this helps.
Neki
I guess my question would have to be how do I talk to him about this? How do I start it? I have no idea what to do. I want to continue having a relationship with him. But I dont think it would go over to well, if I just say 'hey dear, why did u cheat on me last summer' How would I start a conversation with him about this?
If you feel he has cheated on you, there is an issue of trust. My concern would be that if he cheated and once and lies to coverup, how would you know if he hasn't done it before or won't do it again? And this thing about saying you're the only one he's ever told he loves - that doesn't wash if he's been in other intimate relationships. Don't buy whatever he says just because it sounds convincing. Be careful. Remember there are guys out there who would treat you better than that.
Give it a try. If you loose him just suck it up he's not worth it anyways. I know you say you love him but do you really love someone who treats you like that? There are plenty of fish in the sea.
He is clearly in the wrong. And once a cheater always a cheater. I would get out. And consider it his loss, not yours.
All of the posts here are good. Take heed.