Confused....I have a bf problem
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| Tue, 03-16-2004 - 4:44pm |
This is my first post to this board, but I've posted this issue on another board. Here's my issue:
My bf and I have been seeing each other and talking since the middle of January. I wanted to begin introducing him to my family, but after this, I'm not sure I want to. Anyhow, I happened to call him a wk. and a half ago, and I hear this girl in the background. He said that she was his gf. So then I procced to ask what's going on because we've been together for over a month.
So then I went to Florida for spring break (now I don't want to leave because it's supposed to snow when I go home tomorrow), and all of a sudden I get a phone call from her saying to leave them alone and to find another man. She called me twice and pretty much harassed me. Now this is where I'm confused. I think he has been seeing me behind her back and it's just now coming to light. I'd also like to know how she got my number because he wouldn't give my number out at random.
Now I'm stuck between letting him go and letting him explain his actions. It took me 7 yrs. to find someone I thought was halfway decent and it turned out to be just the opposite. (Keep in mind that he said he doesn't like getting hurt, but at the same time he's hurting me. Very contradictory.) At 21 I didn't think I would have to be faced with a situation like this. I don't want to deal with it any more, so what should I do? Should I tell him she's got to go or should I go splitsville and move on with my life? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Steph :)


Don't see him, don't listen to him, don't give him the time of day. He wasn't honest and upfront with you from the beginning. Can you say CHEATER!?!?
In addition, don't fall into the trap of being the other woman.... you can't love him enough, make him feel enough for you to make him pick you. Even if he's lining up you before he dumps her, how long before he goes looking for the next girl to replace you?
RUN!
Carrie
love,
janice