constantly arguing because of stress

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2004
constantly arguing because of stress
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Wed, 12-19-2007 - 11:17am

Me and my boyfriend of over a year have been arguing quite a bit because I've been super stressed over refinancing on my condo and my monthly payments going up 800 dollars a month. I know that I've been putting quite a bit of the stress burden on him by talking about it so much and I feel bad for that and should try to get support elsewhere or deal with my stress on my own, but he's horrible at handling stress. He takes things to heart and starts raising his voice at me when I'm not even mad at him, I'm mad at the situation. It's a cycle, things are fine until I get upset about my condo stuff and even if I say some negative things or raise my voice in frustration just a little bit, he'll raise his voice and get frustrated with me and it will turn into a nasty argument. We will go in circles talking about the same thing over and over.


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 12-19-2007 - 12:28pm

Welcome to the board biochic2004,


There is a thread in the second folder titled Ten Rules for Fighting Fair (or something similar) I would suggest that you read that and see if he can help with your fighting.


Also perhaps it would be beneficial for you to meet with a financial advisor to help you work on a plan for your finances and perhaps that will relive some of the stress associated with that.


Best of luck to you.

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