could i just be paranoid????
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could i just be paranoid????
| Fri, 09-03-2004 - 10:42am |
I am a attractive, single female. I am currently going to school to get my degree in occupational therapy and i am extremely indepent. All around my life would generally be considered good. The only problem i seem to have is that it is hard for me to keep a man. I have no problem meeting them at all, that is for sure not the problem, what ends up happening is i meet, we date, things are great and then for whatever reason they just fade out of my life. The las man i was with i was in love with, and i know he cared about me but after a year he tole me that he loved me and his former girlfriend and he was having a hard time deciding who he wanted to be with so i made the decisin for him and told him good-bye even though it hurt like hell. Now i have since met a new guy and he is great but it started about off strong and now it seems to be winding down. he still calls everyday and i see him at least 3 times a week but sometimes i think he is losing intrest. i dont know if i am being paranoid because of what happened with my ex or what!!! please someone help me before i have a nervous break down stressing about this!!

If you are unsure of what is going on in your present relationship, why not ask and find out? Clear, honest communication is a crucial tool in avoiding paranoia and knowing what's really happening. We can sit and imagine many scenarios, but talking things over is best.
Often times relationships start out wonderfully, but the two indidivuals may have different agendas, different goals, values, interests, etc. This can be the reason for things winding down after the initial attraction is settled. It always makes sense to find out about the person you are starting a relationship with - what is he looking for, who is he? What are his goals and values? Are there any former relationships he is still entwined with? It really pays to spend a little time getting all this clear before jumping in with your feels and needs. By being on the same page in the beginning you can avoid the experience of loss later on.
Talk to your boyfriend now. Find out what he's feeling, needing, etc. Get a copy of my book What He Can't Tell You And Needs To
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