could my thoughts and feelings be true

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2003
could my thoughts and feelings be true
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 4:57pm
Hello... TO who that is reading this.I need advice in the worse way..I am not a skinny beautiful girl.But i have my nice attuide and loveable ways. and of course my bad days like everyone.. I recently lost a baby.. And unsure of my relationship with my fiance. we been together 8 months..and may 2nd i found out i was pregnant. i was readin my fiances archives on yahoo. and come to find out that he was speaking to a girl that lives in moores 15 miles from us. she ask him to meet her. and so on he told her about me. But nothing about our baby and he didn't say he was engaged just that he was with someone and he got on cam for her.. could this mean he isn't not happy with me for i miscarriaged our baby... he said he would never hide things from me and he didn't iam confused. some one please talk to me on this..
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 05-29-2003 - 9:02pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sure you have been experiencing a great deal of pain, and that you are feeling hurt by your fiance's actions. However, he did tell the woman he spoke with about you. Whether he was right or wrong for doing what he did, we all have our own way of dealing with grief. If your fiance was really upset about the loss, he may have wanted to take a break from reality by conversing with someone who didn't know about it. Maybe all he has been hearing about from you, your friends, and your families is how sorry they are, and how sad you must be. I don't know any men who like to wallow in their emotions like that. If it was a one-time thing, I wouldn't let it bother you. However, if you find that he is continuing to carry on conversations with this woman, you should confront him, and let him know that you will not accept it. If he truly wants to spend the rest of his life with you, he will not communicate with her anymore. Good luck!

April