counseling
Find a Conversation
counseling
| Thu, 07-01-2004 - 1:47pm |
I posted yesterday about dh not talking to me and that he is really angry at me. Well, last night I initiated a conversation. We didn't really talk much but it wasn't so bad. I asked him if he wanted us to go to counseling. He said that he was already thinking about him going to counselling by himself. I guess it's a good thing for him but I don't understand how it'll help us because he doesn't want me to go to couseling with him. He din't answer me when I asked him why he feels it's not a good idea for us to go together. Did any of you or your SO been to counseling along to help your relationship?

To fill you in on the reasons...I am getting married in 9 weeks (to my DF who I have been with for 7 years) and a few weeks ago met another guy who I ended up kissing (never been unfaithful to DF) we then were in contact for a few days and met up again and ended up in bed together. OM went away shortly after and he is gone away until 3 weeks before my wedding.
The fact that this happened and how OM made me feel made me start thinking about my marriage and my committment to DF. I felt like I was having some sort of breakdown and really needed to go to speak with someone so I went to a counselor on my own. After that I then told my DF about everything that happened and he was obviously really mad but said he is willing to work on things and try and get through.
I am still not 100% sure of my feelings and with only 9 weeks to go to the big day I am in a panic as to whether or not to go through with the wedding. So I told my DF that I was going to a counselor to help me sort out my feelings. I suggested he go also on his own and that maybe we then have a few sessions together. He is not so sure but I am going anyway. I told him it will be a good investment if it helps me decide that I do want to marry him!
His fear is that it will make me think I don't want to marry him but as I said rather that now than in a couple of years - at least we could move on with our lives.
I would not worry about him going on his own - you may see a great improvement in him....and this might even lead him into then bringing you with him.
I hope it all works out for you and your dh