couples counseling?

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Registered: 08-23-2007
couples counseling?
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 3:02am
Do you think it is productive for a couple ages to 20 and 21 to undergo couples counseling even thought they are making no plans to get married in the future?
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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: amike
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:43am
I don't couples counseling is worth it unless you are in a committed, long-term relationship that you are looking to have end in marriage/whatever religious ritual. You are very young, if you're having serious problems in a relationship that is not that serious perhaps you should consider breaking up.
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In reply to: amike
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 10:27am

Counseling is also productive. There is also something to be learned, and it's a good idea to work through relationship conflicts at any age. Then, as you grow, you will have this understanding and these to use in future relationships as well. And, besides, any pattern that one does not understand and deal with, simply repeats itself in the future as well. So, this is a fine time to become clear and healthy.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 08-01-2007
In reply to: amike
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 11:08am

like most things in life - what you get out of counseling will depend on what you put into it. Couseling - individual or couples - provides a great opportunity to learn about yourself as well as how to deal with problems. It provides an opportunity for personal growth.

So, yes, I beleive it would be productive. If you are looking to use it to make a relationship last that otherwise wouldn't - it might or might not be productive for that goal. Again, it depends on what you put into it and what you want to get out of it.

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Registered: 09-02-2005
In reply to: amike
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 1:25pm
why are you together if you dotn see a future and are unhappy?