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|Wed, 09-19-2012 - 2:51pm|
Didn't know what other board to post this on.... this is a different issue from my relationship issue... and if there is another board, feel free to recommend.
So, here's the issue.... I have this coworker on my team and i think he's been giving me the silent treatment (or the brush off). I don't know what i've done (if anything). A couple months ago, we were strong allies at work... but now when i need to talk to him, he gives me a "why are you bothering me look". The first time I noticed it, i said something to him. "What's witht he death stare?" His reply was "death stare, really? you are reading it wrong." ...essentially he was saying he had not "look". He is known to be moody and I thought the best thing was to just let it go ... his mood would change eventually.
But he proceed to do more brush off behaviors (or am I paranoid, cuz i dont' know what to think).
A while back, before he was on my team... he had a LOT of negative things to say about his other team leaders. And when he made generalized statements, i'd say, i dont do that. He's say, i dont' mean you, i mean the other team leaders. I told him i thought he deserved to be a team leader. Then, he rotated onto my team. I thought things were going to be great. We think a lot alike, being on the same team should be a benefit. But that's when i noticed his "brush off" behavior starting. My supervisor warned me that this could happen... because of his pride, he doesn't like being corrected or he thinks he can do a better job. So, when before it felt like we were working together, now it feels like he resents me and tries to ignore me.
what should i do? nothing? I've thought of confronting him but what if i'm wrong. he'll say to me, "really, you're reading things wrong" again. I'm trying to act normal ... i just feel like something is in the air.
what do i think it could be.... i think it could be when i was honest with him on a couple issues. when he complained about the other team leaders, i said he needs to take the high road. that if he has something to say, he needs to say it with respect. (he felt differently, he said, "i'm done" with team leaders)
then when he gave a negative report about someone else on my team, i told him i felt he was being too hard on her. i didn't see the bad behaviour and his reply was basically that i was not being observant. Then he made fun of all my lists and how i ran my team meetings.
for the longest time i didn't care. and i'm trying to rise above his blow offs.... but should i be doing something different? should i talk to my boss or let it go. i have a feeling when he rotates off my team again, things will go back to normal.