Critical husband

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Critical husband
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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 10:16am
Not a day goes by that my husband doesn't criticize me for my behavior, thoughts/words or an action. I notice that his father is a lot like that towards his girlfriend (my husband's parents are divorced). My gut tells me that I'm not being overly sensitive or emotional. I don't know what to do. Unfortunately we don't have the money for counseling, and he seems to only see things his way and is always "right". We've been married for 3 and a half years, and while he's always been critical, it's increased more in the past year to year and a half. Any advice would be appreciated. Txs:)
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 11:54am
I am assuming you knew he was like this when you married him. So why are you attracted to this behavior and why have you put up with it for so long?

Assume he won't change. How much longer are you willing to put up with it.

Do you have children?

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 1:42pm
Call it like it is.... speak up for yourself, when he says something, call him on it... 'that was rather critical? You don't like how I do this?' Or, 'that was insensitive and hurts my feelings, are you unaware of how you come across?'

Better yet, tape record him then play it back to him.

Reading material:

Relationship Resuce, by Dr Phil


Carrie