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Crossdressing
| Fri, 01-09-2004 - 2:17pm |
I have been in a committed relationship with a woman for the past three months.We have both expressed our love for each other. My dilemma is I’m a crossdresser. I need to know when and how I should tell her about my crossdressing. I have tried to quit but have realized now that it’s not possible for me to do so. I really love this woman but I love crossdressing just as much. Help!
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| Fri, 01-09-2004 - 3:05pm |
I don't have much experience with crossdressers, but it seems to me that crossdressing is just a part of who you are like many other traits people have. I think that you should tell the woman you are with as soon as you can. That way she can decide if she is interested in dating a crossdresser. She may be or she may not, but I think you owe it to her and yourself to be honest. I mean, what good does it do either of you to get deeper involved in a relationship if ultimately it wont work out? Better to find out now.
| Fri, 01-09-2004 - 5:55pm |
IMO you need to tell her asap. Most likely it will be a shock for her and she'll probably need some time to herself to think it over -- but please make sure when you tell her about it that you explain exactly what it's all about. The majority of people are scared by the unknown and have preconceived notions about things and even believe in false information that they've heard. Be open and honest about it. There's a good possibility she will decide to cut and run. BUT...you cannot keep her around indefinitely with lies of omission. Sooner or later the truth will out, and no healthy relationship is based on lies and deceipt. It would be totally selfish of you to go on much longer without telling her. And really, you deserve someone who loves you for who you *really* are, not just an image you project while you hide certain aspects of yourself from view. I wish you strength and courage and a big hug. Not many of the roads worth taking are easy. Best of luck to you.
