Crossdressing and Transgender Issues

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Registered: 11-11-2012
Crossdressing and Transgender Issues
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Sun, 11-11-2012 - 2:02pm

I'm new here and would be happy to offer advice regarding gender identity issues that may threaten your relationship.

Now in my early seventies, I've been aware of my transgender status on some level since the age of six.  It took a very long time and a great deal of study to understand and come to terms with the person I feel I am. 

Having been very happily married for decades to an understanding woman, I consider myself fortunate to have escaped the sad fate that awaits a large percentage of my kind in our society.  I've published a book that I hope will be helpful to others who suffer because of a mismatch between the genders of their bodies and their minds.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Sun, 11-11-2012 - 5:39pm

It's unfortunate there is a stigma still attached to so many things.  For instance, I have clinical depression, which is actually a mental illness, so I'm reluctant to let people know I HAVE the problem for fear they'll start to look at me sideways, even though a zillion others have the very same condition.  Good for you if you have your head on straight about it, better late than never!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2012
Sun, 11-11-2012 - 5:59pm
I sympathize with your struggle and wish you the best. I know it can be very debilitating. I've been treated for acute bouts but never had the chronic problem you're dealing with. Transgender people who cannot attain congruence between mind and body often suffer depression, and the suicide rate among the gender dysphoric is shockingly high.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2012
Mon, 11-12-2012 - 10:10am

Kudos to you for taking a very difficult life condition and turning it into something positive : ) We can choose what we say and what we do, but we cannot choose who we are and the world would be so much more interesting if everyone embraced their individuality and so much more pleasing if everyone could accept others without judgement. It's disturbing that many wonderful people have taken their own lives because of unnecessary shame and isolation. Good luck in all you do. Your efforts are bound to help more than one person but if even one life is enhanced or saved, you've made a huge impact in our world.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2012
Tue, 11-13-2012 - 9:16pm
Although I had the transgender community in mind when I wrote my life story, it's been suggested to me by several people that the book would be a useful tool for raising awareness among the public at large. But I can't imagine there are many who would be interested in the subject.