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|Mon, 08-22-2011 - 12:11pm|
I am a recovering addict and I've recently rekindled an old flame from my past. he, too, is in recovery and also just got out of prison 6 months ago. when he first got out we had sex pretty regularly. about 3 months ago, he moved in with me and within 3-4 weeks we stopped having sex altogether. he says that he's just not into that right now and has other things he's trying to concentrate on like relationship building with his daughter, gainful employment etc. he says he loves me, and that he totally finds me attractive but he's just not into sex right now. we've had several conversations about it and he seems to think this hang-up is from using sex in his addiction to gain acceptance. I've tried to explain that there's a difference between having sex with someone and making love with someone u are in a committed relationship with. Obviously this bothers me on many levels. without trying to sound like a "ho" or desperate, this is making me crazy...i have needs, too! and I would truly like to convince him that sex is not a bad thing, but I'm at a loss on how to deal with this myself or even begin to help him. Any advise?