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dad cheated
| Mon, 03-29-2004 - 1:32am |
When i was in 8th grade I found out that my dad had cheated on my mom. Because of certain circumstances, it became very public and I had to learn all the details in the newspaper as well as on TV. After finding out about that one time, I read something of my moms that told about numerous other affairs my father had. I was never able to let my parents know that I had learned so much. I am now 19 and in a relationship. I have recently been noticing that I have a very hard time with my boyfriend having female friends. It makes me very uncomfortable and extremely upset when he is with them. I am wondering if this could be because of what happened in my past or if my past experiences would cause my to have trust issues in my own relationships. I have never been able to talk about this and figured this would be the best way to do it. Thanks for anyones help.

Best of luck - you sound like a very mature 19 year old and the fact that you are recognizing your reactions and have made the association between your feelings and your father's infedility is a very positive thing indeed.
Best of luck.
Coolas
It does help to rate your feelings of jealousy on a scale of one to ten. Any higher than eight and persistent, I would seek counselling. Also you dont say what happened to your folk's marriage. How were you hurt by it. Did you talk to either or both of them. It may be an idea to talk to your folks to put this issue of your past hurt if any behind you. Most children are resilient and it may well be you are far more capable of understanding your pop's mistakes tahn you think u are.
~Ustanni
Ustanni