The DARK SIDE of my future husband??
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The DARK SIDE of my future husband??
| Mon, 03-01-2004 - 2:10pm |
I am lost for words . . .My fiancé has been off of work due to the California supermarket strikes for the past 5 months. We are about to get married in July and I've been busting my butt to support and pay for our new house, three cars, and keep food on the table. Well last night it was about 2 a.m., and I walked downstairs to find him looking a porn on the internet. I know all men do it, but I after he got off, I went to the computer looked at the history and found some disturbing things. It was girls as young as 15 and 16 in catholic school girls outfits, bent over, and just disgusting things. And there's more . . . he's been planning his bachelor party and I found numerous visits to vegasescorts.com. I confronted him and he said those links just popped up when he was innocently looking at some model websites. I feel so low and so horrible, I feel unattractive and unappreciated. I am thinking of calling off my wedding and feel as if I have no one to turn to, I am too embarrassed to go to my friends and family. Please help.
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| Mon, 03-01-2004 - 3:01pm |
I am sorry to hear that you found that out.But at least you know it from the start.Talk to him and if he does care about you then he will put your feelings first.Mine found the need after 11 years of marriage and I am fighting porn now close to 6 years.It is not a pretty picture.I wish that I had a warning for that so that I would have known for the future.We had no sex for almost 3 months now while he had fun online with shemales and a live webcam.Solve that problem before you get married.You have a choice to learn to love porn and everything that comes with it.Or get out while you can.It is a lot easier now for you rather than later when you have kids in the picture too.Think careful about how you want your future to be.Talk to him that is all I can say.Then he has to make some choices too.I sure hope he will care enough about you to be willing to work on that problem and solve it.
| Mon, 03-01-2004 - 4:38pm |
You should consider loading spyware on your computer. It can cost a pretty penny... I've never bought it but I hear that a good one can cost about $100. If it means knowing the truth, though, I think it's worth it. You would have all the evidence you would need to confront him and there would be no denying it.
