Dating an arab?
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| Mon, 12-01-2003 - 7:05am |
Am I going to get myself embroiled in something I can't get out? I don't doubt for a second of his feelings for me, he does like me or even perhaps love me as he shows and says on a daily basis. when I am with him things are fine and he's attentive and treats me well and makes sure Im ok and all the rest of it. He discusses his worries about his exams and work with me and he's quite normal on all fronts.....but its the nationality/age issue. What is he hiding? Why is he hiding it?
I don't know what to do or what to think or how to approach this issue. I can't really ask him because he's told me on more than one occassion that he is from Lebanon and that he is 30 and that his birthday is 22 December....
He appears to be a genuine person, maybe he's protecting himself because he doesn't know me very well... but I just don't know what to do. I do like him a lot, moving towards the "love" stage of things, and we are good together.... but I need to trust him 100%, and these little things don't help that....
Any thoughts/ advice? Anyone in a similar situation?
AGHHHH!!
Xeeena

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Wow, I guess this is dangerous times we live in when someone lieing a few years about his age and where he came from to a woman is reason to call the FBI.
Well, there could be a couple different explanations, but the only one that is going to matter is the one that you get when you ask him about this.
James
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He's a specialist working in one of the large hospitals in the city in which we live and he's been open about that. He's not hiding anything about where he works, who his friends are, Ive even met his best friend and know where he works! He's even applied for a visa to attend a clinical medicine course in California.....so why would he do that if he had something to hide.... surely by applying for a visa in this day and age, everyone and their mother gets put through the microscope.
Perhaps its because he just doesn't know me and trusts nobody, therefore puts up a wall and all will be revealed in time.... ? (am I being stupid and refusing to take the blinkers off???!!!)
geez, I don't know how to begin to approach this... ok - here goes. I first start out by apologizing to any middle eastern people here - but, I consider myself to be middle estern as well - and I think that before you take one step further you need to understand (and i mean REALLY REALLY REALLY understand) that this man - may be the brightest, nicest, most modern etc man you ever met - but at heart he is MIDDLE EASTERN. which is fine, but it is VERY VERY different from you, and from what you are used to (trust me!!! i have been living on this side of the world most of my adult life and I STILL get culture shock every now and then). point being - things are DIFFERENT. that's number one.
two - I betcha he was born in iraq and either raised in lebanon or went to school there - hence he told you he was from lebanon (really, who in their right mind would say they are from IRAQ?)
Wow, this paranoia about the fact that he is from Iraq is crazy.
James
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