Dating a divorced guy....

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Dating a divorced guy....
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Fri, 10-15-2004 - 9:39pm
I'm 29 and dating a 33-year old divorced guy for about 6 months. He's been divorced for about 2 years, but he is still deeply hurt from the experience. His ex-wife was his first girlfriend and they were married for 6 years. She basically cheated on him and told him she never loved him during the whole time together.

The first three months we were together, we were happy. He was hesitant and concerned about having a relationship, but he gave all his effort in making us work. The thing that drove me crazy ...he always had trust issues, which is understandable, and he's always analyizng my every move and word. Then one weekend, he started acting wierd and distant. I knew something was wrong, and after 3 weeks of his behavior, I confronted him and he admitted his ex contacted him. We didn't go into details, but now he says he's not ready for a relationship and he doesnt want his heart broken again.

After a discussion, where I told him to try to take it one day at a time, he's acting "normal" again... at least most of the time. Sometimes, he still "freaks out" and push me away.

I have developed strong feelings for him. Unlike him, I had several relationships (engaged twice) and "know what I want". My question is... is this "normal" behavior for a divorced guy? OR does he just not feel teh same way about me? SHould i move on?

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 10-16-2004 - 1:11pm
its sounds like (a) he is not over his wife yet and (b) he does have trust issues. in any case - HE is not ready for