dating a separated man

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
dating a separated man
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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 1:14pm
I had an affair with a man for over a year and a half. We got caught and both left our sponses. He filed for divorce first and questioned me about doing it. I filed for divorce and lost alot by settling quickly to be with him. Now it's been a year and he is still in the "process of his divorce". Everytime I ask about it he says he cant do anything to make it go any faster. Am I just an idiot?
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Registered: 06-05-2007
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 3:50pm

well, i wont answer the only question you ask.

i will point out that you did not mention one single quality about him that would lead me to believe that he is anyway a man of his word. quite the opposite...everything you mention would lead a reasonable person to believe that nothing he says should be believed. he is not to be trusted.

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Registered: 04-02-2007
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 4:22pm

I won't answer your question either.

Think about this for a minute. You started this relationship with each other by cheating and lying to your spouses. How can you honestly believe anything he says, he is still lying and cheating, separated = STILL MARRIED. Even if you were to get married to him what makes you think he wouldn't cheat on you? If he does it with you he will do it to you.

Wake UP! Your relationship was based on lies, you never had respect and honesty from the get go, those are 2 of the most important things to have in a relationship. If he wanted to be divorced he would be, if he loved you and wanted to be with you he would be divorced. Give him up, learn from your mistakes, and get on with your life. good luck

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 12:21pm

Welcome to the board beachbumalways,


You both started out at the same place, you took steps to move forward and on with