Dating a Younger Man

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Registered: 09-02-2004
Dating a Younger Man
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 5:47pm
I am 49 and dating a man 42 - we have been going out for just over a year and on the whole this is a fantastic relationship - we get along well and having a fantastic time. I was widhowed 7 yrs ago. My 17 yr marriage was great and apart from the usual up and downs itwas a contentful and healthy marriage. My boyfriend was not as lucky as I was. He was married for five years which ended in a divorce and then had a few disastrous relationships. When we got together I did not focus much on his past and focused on our present and possibly future. Last week he was very down and we talked about it. He says we gets along very well on both the mental and physical aspect - (and I agree) but he has a problem on the 'emotional aspect' and 'matters of the heart' as he put it. This has really confused me. My boyfriend and I have very stimulating conversations and discussions and physical contact including sex is second to none - there is no problem here. What confuses me is that he says tht he is hungry for 'emotional affection' and feels he struggles to open his heart to me. I am confused and would like to work on this aspect......can anyone help???