deak breaker?

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Registered: 02-28-2007
deak breaker?
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Mon, 04-30-2007 - 5:00pm

so over the weekend a girlfriend and i went on a little road trip to a bigger city to go dancing and shopping, just generally some good fun. i told my bf that i would call him when we got back to our hotel, which i did. he called about twenty minutes later and couldn't get a hold of me (i had fallen into deep slumber,after our night out on the town.) i called him as soon as i woke up (5:30) and left him a message. he called me back and i could tell something was wrong. after i got back home later that day, he told me that he had freaked out and thought the worst when he couldn't get a hold of me. he then tells me that he logged onto my email and found an email to subscribe to an online dating site. the email that he logged onto, i haven't' used in a year, which i thought was probably obvious, since i had 1700 unopened email in my inbox and 16000 in my bulk ( junk mail is why i stopped using it)he saw this on like page 12 of all these emails, unopened and immediately thought that i was cheating on him. when i showed him that i hadn't sent any mail since june of last year, and hadn't opened any since then, he admittedly looked a little sheepish.

My question is, should i just let it go, or should i do something about this. i haven't done anything for him to not trust me, and it really hurts that he doesn't. but now that he's doe this, i don't know if i can trust him to not snoop in all my stuff. even though there isn't anything incriminating, i still don't like it. we have been dating for 4 1/2 years, and i can't believe this is happening. things continued to be strange an awkward between us for the rest of the night, but i'll spar everyone the long story. any suggestions would be very helpful. thanks!

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Registered: 02-28-2007
In reply to: skeeter2007
Mon, 04-30-2007 - 5:03pm
geez i wish i could spell, deal breaker, what would a deak be anyways : )
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: skeeter2007
Mon, 04-30-2007 - 5:14pm

Welcome to the board skeeter2007,


Lol on your type-o. I do it all the time.


Has your bf always been this untrusting of you? Did you ask him why he would think you were cheating on him?


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Registered: 02-28-2007
In reply to: skeeter2007
Mon, 04-30-2007 - 5:53pm
no, not really, i mean he has his moments, but they are few and far between. he is usually very level headed. he just said he didn't like the idea of me going dancing. when i first told him that i was planning on going, he hit me with a barrage of questions... why do you need to go there to go dancing, who are you going with etc. but i asked if it was ok with him, and he said yes. but after i got back he said that he thought he would be ok with it, but that after i left he just felt sick about it, and wanted to come up and find me. i don't want to stop doing things because he is suddenly insecure, but i don't want him to not trust me either.
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