Deception and Betrayal

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Registered: 03-17-2004
Deception and Betrayal
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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 3:13pm
My husband and I have been having some pretty difficult times lately. Recently I discovered that he's been very deceiptful and has betrayed me horribly. I'm not sure what I'm going to do or if I can even forgive this at this point. I'm going to couseling and trying to work on it. Are any books that I can read on the issue of getting past this pain, trying to forgive, regaining trust again. If I don't figure this out, I'm certain that my marriage is going to go under.
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Registered: 09-19-2002
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 4:43pm
How did he betray you? You ask for books on the subject and it would be helpful to know what you're going through.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 6:39pm

Welcome to the board kpastula2004,


Are you talking about him cheating?

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Registered: 03-17-2004
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 12:49pm
An emotional affair, not a physical one. At this point not sure which is worse. This feels pretty bad and has done a lot of destruction to what we were, I thought, trying to repair. The idea that he turned to another woman to confide in has really shaken my foundation. There have been a lot of lies and deception. I'm going to counseling and working on things within myself. I just feel like I need to get some perspective.