DECODE MEN

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Registered: 07-22-2003
DECODE MEN
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Thu, 09-09-2004 - 9:27pm
Okay...ive posted before

Ive been dating a guy for 1 month and we have been on about 5 dates. He always mentions the future, even asked me if i'd be interested in attending an upcoming concert. He is very busy with law school...he just started 2 weeks ago. Heres the thing, I usually call him and he calls me back..I never ask for dates, he always does that. And this past sunday he did call me first. He even told me to call him monday, so I did and we chatted. He held my hand the entire date, and on a previous date he said he was looking for a stable relationship. I know its only thursday, but how often in a new relationship do guys call and would it be wrong for me to call this early on, again. He has never been one to call all the time...usually i end up calling him after 3 or 4 days, but i think its busy with school. Is this typical guy behavior in first month, am i reading too far into things?


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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: fashiongirl22
Fri, 09-10-2004 - 8:17am

Im not sure about it being the "typical guy behavior", everyone wil give you differnt answers to that one, but i do think it is the typical behavior of one in law school. That is one of th emost stressful and vigerous things to do mentally and Im sure he is overwhelmed. He may say that he is ready for a stable relationship, but dont rush things. The studies he has chosen is very challenging and time consumiong as he will soon realize, makeing it hard to have any relationship.


Take one day at a time and see how things go. I dont beleivce in any "rules" about time limits for calls, or who should call who....if you care, thats all that matters. I would be concerned with putting all the time and energy into something and not getting any thing reciprocated. Relationships have to be two way....


Good luck and keep us posted!!


 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: fashiongirl22
Fri, 09-10-2004 - 11:20am

He is very busy with school - law school is a huge undertaking. Still and all, don't get into the pattern of chasing him. Step back and let him miss you. Let him call. It's best when two partners call mutually. Give him some time here. He's just started school and also just started this relationship. Don't make him feel as though you are too needy or closing in on him. If he wants this relationship and wants you, believe me, he'll reach out for it.


Best wishes.