depreesed girl gf

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Registered: 04-25-2013
depreesed girl gf
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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 6:07pm

what your thoughts on dating a having a gf that has depression and take fluxotaine(prozac) 10mg everyday. at times she very negative and makes argument and slight over sensitve so if i say something she get heart very easily. she told me she took the meds for 2 year now but another guy mutual friend who knew her long ago said she was taking it when she was 19 and shes 25 now.

anyone here has experience with ppl who has depression and goes counselling once a week and take that meds fluxotaine
shes always late too. one hour late . you tell her to meet you at 5 and she comes at 630. she never changes. its like some time management problem
why is she like this? i asked and she said no job and ex bf problems make her take this drug. its been a while since her ex bf since im with her close under a year
i have to admit it so hard being with her. she make me all stressed out, cant sleep, she frustrates me.
she never told me she took meds. i just kind of figured it out. she mentioned counselling, and when we date shes off. i can tell shes off too.
i jsut stick with her since i cant find a new gf and its very hard for me

also she hate guys. i read this in her diary one time in her room. she hates guy and said they should all die."all men die in this world"
this is since most men just use her for sex and not wanting her for a relationship. i dont blame them, being with her is sooooo hard

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Fri, 09-20-2013 - 11:21pm

  So we have to go upside your head with a 2X4?  Drop her.  Drop her now.  Negative people will bring you down and waste your time.  Let them find a death spiral person so they can waste their life in commiseration.

dragowoman

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 12:28am

Agreed with PP 100% - drop her.

It is one thing dating someone who is depressed and takes medication, but why would you want someone who is so negative and full of hate, has no job, believes all men use her for sex, stresses you out, makes you lose sleep, is always late for appointments, and lies (about how long she has been on Prozac)?

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 2:21am

I have to agree with everyone else.  Why do you stay with her?  There are plenty of women out there who aren't depressed and don't hate men, and are on time for appointments.  She's got more wrong with her than just depression, and you certainly can't fix her.  She's driving you mad........end the relationship and find a woman who will be happy with you.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:08am

Staying with a bad GF cause you can't find a new GF is ridiculous.  Also it's not fair to be looking for a new GF while you are still with this woman.  Break up with her and then go out looking.  By the way, depression is not an excuse for being late.  My exH was depressed yet he managed to be on time for things.  And if she is on medication and going to counseling, her mood should have improved--otherwise, maybe she needs a change of medication.  But from what my ex told me, the medication doesn't make someone "happy," it just kind of makes them normal so they can function.

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Registered: 09-29-2010
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 2:13pm

You posted about this girl back in April, it looks like nothing has changed since then. The advice is still the same: break up with her. It doesn't matter what medications she's taking or what conditons she has. You're still unhappy with her. To stay with her because you can't find another gf is unfair to both of you. End it and move on with your life.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Mon, 09-23-2013 - 1:07am

You say you only stay with her because you can't find another girlfriend?  Then you ARE like all the other men who use her for sex!  Does your life depend on you having a girlfriend, even if she's driving you crazy?  That's wrong on so many levels.  You need to get her out of your life.  There are lots of women out there looking for a good man that will treat them with respect........maybe you're looking in the wrong places, and/or don't know how to make friends, which eventually can lead to girlfriends.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 09-23-2013 - 11:02am

Your first sentence asks:

"what your thoughts on dating a having a gf that has depression and take fluxotaine(prozac) 10mg everyday"

My thoughts on dating a girl who has depression and is taking Prozac is fine.  That does not seem to be the issue here.  Plenty of women take Prozac and don't exibit the behaviors you mentioned (hating me, being late). I hope you don't think this is all because of depression or medication.  In fact, 10mg of Prozac is a low dose, so I am not a doctor, but have depression and I don't believe what you mentioned about her is her depression.  I hope you don't get a negative thought now about depression because this is not a good example.  As someone mentioned, this is something else with her.  I have my thoughts, but won't post as I am not a doctor.

I agree with others, you are just like other men she dated if you stay with her because you can't find another gf.  That is not fair to her, nor to you.

After reading all the posts, what do you think?

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Registered: 04-25-2013
Mon, 09-23-2013 - 1:43pm

she told me shes on fluxontaine or prozac for 2 years now but i knew another friend who klnew her and he said she was in hospital when she was 19 and shes 25 now and she called him sicen she needed a ride home. i beleive the guy too , everythign h e says about her is make sense

i think its more than 2 years

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 09-23-2013 - 5:56pm

So you think she's been on it longer than two years. You know she has a bad personality. You know she hates men. She may be a liar. She's unreliable. None of that has anything to do with her being on medication and I'm not sure why you are harping on that. If you don't like her then you need to break up with her. Continuing to date her because you can't find anyone else is a lousy thing to do and it's getting you no where. 

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 09-23-2013 - 7:30pm

Yea, this doesn't have anything to do with depression and taking Prozac.  If things are not working out with the two of you, then be fair and break up with her so she can find someone who excepts her exactly the way she is and doesn't want to change her. 

 

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