Depressed about my husband's situation!

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Registered: 06-29-2004
Depressed about my husband's situation!
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 11:53am
I am quite depressed with my husband's situation. He is in the process of going thru a paternity test to see if he fathered a little boy before he met me. I don't know why I feel saddened by the situation. I have a child from a previous relationship, why do I feel like I can't accept his child if its his? It would be so wrong because he's so good to my son who he took in like his own. We also now have a baby girl together. I think about all the other people that have kids from previous relationships and how they were able to still stay together... But there are times when I want to leave him because I just can't deal with it. I get so angry knowing this child was conceived out of one night stand and if he would have used protection- he wouldn't have this problem now. UGHHHH! It really depresses me and its consuming me esp. the financial part of it like child support. Would it be wrong if I leave him for this reason? Am I selfish? Am I bad wife who needs to be more supportive of my husband in a positive way? Please let me know your thoughts and how I can deal with this situation better and with a open heart. Thank u so much in advance.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 1:12pm
You've had a shock. It takes time to adjust to what you feel, why you feel what you feel, etc. You are entitled to your feelings. Consider short-term counseling before you decide to leave him.


Carrie