depressed boyfriend

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Registered: 01-19-2008
depressed boyfriend
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Sat, 01-19-2008 - 5:15pm

This was

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 6:25pm

It sounds as though the both of you are rather insensitive to one another's needs. When you're in a loving relationship, you put someone else first when they need you and vice versa.

I wouldn't take it too personally that he was upset about not seeing his family for Christmas. It can be kind of a shocking feeling not seeing family members for a holiday for the first time; maybe he kind of felt older or more grown-up (not sure how old you are).

You both should try to remember that while you're entitled to feel whatever way you do, so is the other. It's okay for him to be a little sad that you weren't spending as much time together; it doesn't necessarily mean that he thinks you should take time off from caring for your father and spend time instead with him. He just missed you, that's all.

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Registered: 01-18-2008
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 9:11am

I disagree with the other post and I agree with you.


For him to be mad and demand attention from you when you are taking care of your father while he is sick, is beyond me, he should have offer to help like you would have done I'm sure, if the whole thing was reversed.


I'm very family oriented, and if I had a boyfriend that said that to me he would have been out the door that day.


You only have one father, boyfriends come and go (excuse the analogy LOL)


Sounds like trouble to me, I would question the relationship as well.