DESPERATE! Can my marriage be saved?

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Registered: 06-28-2004
DESPERATE! Can my marriage be saved?
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 10:33pm
I need advice in a bad way. My husband and I have always had our disagreements, as everyone does sometimes. But we were always able to work through them. We are renting at the moment and lately have been pursuing buying a home. We've been preapproved and started talking to a realtot. I took down an mls # off of a website for a house we were interested in. I wrote it down so I could put it into another site hoping for a more detailed listing. I usually copy and paste for for some reason I wrote it this time and when I got to the website, I "right-clicked" and "pasted" out of habit, forgetting that I wrote it down this time. When I hit paste of course, instead of the number coming up it was the last thing that was copied onto the clipboard. That happened to be an email that my husband sent out to his ex-girlfriend. here is what it said(there will be *** to replace the names)

"******,

This email may seem crazy........

I have Gradutated from College just over a year ago and after

some moving around I am now living in ******,Oh with a career as a Nursery Manager.

Anyway, my wife and I are now looking into buying a home

together now, despite alot of probems we have

been having over the past 4 months.... in truth, our entire

marriage has had alot of problems... anyway....

what I am trying to get at is that before I make a huge commitment

like this which would make a possible seperation

that much harder, if it came down to it, I feel like I should

tell the person I have felt was my soulmate from the

moment I met her how I felt.

That person is you ******.

Time heals all wounds they say, but my heart never did. It

has been almost 4 years since I last laid eyes on you...

but I have seen you daily in my mind.

You made me feel like nobody else ever has... I do love my

wife.... but there has always been something lacking...

Its like we put two puzzel peices together that don't quite

fit... Close enough to think it will work, but it isn't

quite right. Since those first two peices of the puzzle don't

quite fit nothing else will either. With you I feel

like it would all fall into place naturaly instead of forced.

I could be insane... this could be the dumbest thing I have

ever thought or done in my life (this letter that is),

BUT, it could be the best. Anyway, I have loved you in silence

for a long time. I may be a distant memory for you

for all I know... but I had to get this out... I have thought

about sending you this for a long LONG time....and felt

it was now or never, forever wonder what might have been.

If you still have any feelings for me, please let me know.

No matter what, I will care about you and hope the best

for you... With me in your life or not.....

Love,

****** "

so thats the email. He knows that I found out about it because he was in the room when I read it and I literally passed out from the shock of it. I really felt like everything was going so well. He says that he loves me and he still wants to be with me but he hasn't heard back from his ex and I'm afraid of what may happen if he does. I love him more than I ever thought I could but I've been hurt more than I thought possible and I don't know if I could be with him while everyday thinking about that letter. Do you think this is something that I could "get over" or is my marriage doomed? I REALLY need help. please email me at carrieml82@hotmail.com with ANY advice

Thanks

Carrie