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| Tue, 08-14-2007 - 10:49am |
Hello everyone,
I recently got dumped by my bf and worst of all it was done thru a text, he said that we should just break up because he was tired of my fragile feelings always in the way of everything he did and that i would always find something to bitch about. We were together for 7 yrs. and it really hurt me the way he broke up with me and to top it all off is that we've been living together for the last 3 1/2 yrs. He broke up with me on Friday and all weekend i was trying to avoid him and i would leave the house very early and come home very late, but then i thought this is my house too why should i always leave and besides he's the one that broke up with me why doesn't he leave. Well last night he was there trying to avoid me and i finally confronted him about him leaving and he said that he had paid rent till the end of the mo. and that he would leave then and he said unless i wanna leave, but i told him that he was the one that ended the relationship so i felt he should leave. He agreed to leave but what hurts me most of all is that he seems like nothing even bothers him, like our relationship meant nothing to him. Previous times that we have broken up, i'm always the one begging him to come back and basically blaming myself for everything that went wrong and it works i get him back, but he always throws that in my face that i'm the one with issues and that i need help. I forgot to mention that he was married and has two kids, so that what he means about me having issues, he doesn't understand how it is to deal with all these things especially since i've never been married and have no kids. I feel towards the end i was becoming more bitchy and naggy but i feel it was because i was so frustrated and had a lot of resentment towards him because he couldn't make up his mind about marrying me, because he would always tell me that he never loved his ex that he just married cuz she got pregnant but he said he loved me so much but he never committed to me with marriage.
The thing is that i really believe that we were meant to be together and i don't want to lose him but, i also feel that i've always have been the one begging and lowering myself just to get him back and this time i fee like he hurt me so bad that i can't do that anymore. i've been told that if i let him go and he's apart from me for a while he'll realize what he had and that if he really loved me he'll come back. it's just kinda scary to have to let him go for him to realize that, i feel like i'll lose him forever if i do that.
Can anyone help me out what do you guys think i should do, i'm going crazy and i feel like i'll break at any moment.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!

Welcome to the board monkeygirlgoddess,
I think him breaking you with you via text message shows a complete lack of respect for you and your relationship. If he truly cared about you, he would have talked to you about it in person.
Do not beg him to come back to you. There are obviously issues that need to be worked out before a relationship will work between the two of you.
Sorry you have to go through this. I know it is hard, but try to find things to occupy yourself so that your not concentrating on the grief.
Best of luck to you.
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Welcome to the board monkeygirlgoddess,
::he said that we should just break up because he was tired of my fragile feelings always in the way of everything he did and that i would always find something to bitch about.
Have you ever addressed his concerns?