DESPERATELY NEED ADVICE

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Registered: 10-22-2007
DESPERATELY NEED ADVICE
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 3:04pm

Hello (sorry this is long, I am trying to sort through and process everything),


I desperately would like to find some advice and hope that someone can help me. I have currently in a relationship with my bf, it has been complicated from the beginning. And I am guessing that I should give you a brief history so that I can truly portray the right story. We both went to college together, and have been really great friends for about 5 years now, towards the end of our senior year (over 2 years ago)

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 3:19pm

Welcome to the board what2do05,


The fact that he's not discussed "I'm thinking of moving home" tells me that he really doesn't see the two of you as a 'partnership'.

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 3:28pm

Ok so since I have already told him that I am here for him (and he has told me that he knows that) and I back off......what act like there is nothing wrong? Because I am just conflicted with the idea of trying to be supportive and there for him....and trying to protect myself. I dont want to think that he is just mulling things over, and then like I said.....we each go home for Thanksgiving and when I get back, find out that he is moving back. I know that he is sensitive and doesnt purposely try to hurt me....but I would think that by not only being a girlfriend, but a friend....that I deserve to get the heads up! But also if he needs the space to think about things, and I am nagging him....what does that do but cause a big rift in things?


I understand what you said about him not seeing this as a true "partnership" and that is does hurt, not because I think that everything should revolve around how does this affect him or me.....but because I feel like if this is just not a fleeting thought....that I am techinically the last to know....since he would know that I would be heartbroken.