In Despreate need of advice HELP!!!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2004
In Despreate need of advice HELP!!!!!!
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Thu, 08-26-2004 - 8:05pm
ok there's this guy that i have been dealing with on and off for six years now.Just recently we had a discussion and he finally admitted that he has a girlfriend.I'm so heart broken because i trully love him with everything in me and our relationship has always had bad timing but what do i do now, do i let him go? It's so hard to because i've always been there even before her-do i fight for him because i love him just as much as he does probably more,we agreed to be friends but i don't think i can do it -i'm so confused
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 8:11pm

Have you told him all of this?Does he know how much you care? If so, what was his response? I can definitly feel for you, I was in a similar postion one time......


I would let him know how you feel....if he feels the same, there isnt a problem....If he chooses to be with this gitl(which, by the way, how long have they dated?), then you have his answer. I mean, how long did he lie to you about theor relationship??Thats a red flag to me. If he did this to her, what would stop him from lying about your relationshpi with im to another girl, had you two ever started to date?


 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 8:47pm
It is very painful when someone you love chooses someone else. I don't think you have any choice but to let him go. There is no strategy that can make him be with you if he wants to be with someone else. How would you go about fighting for him? Nothing you could do or change about yourself will make him stop loving her to be with you. Love doesn't work that way. Of course it's hard for you to be friends with him right now. You need to stop all contact with him until you are over him. It'll happen eventually, but it will take much longer if you keep seeing him.