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| Thu, 07-31-2008 - 11:31am |
Why can't I let the past go why am I still holding on???????
About 4 yrs ago I was dating this guy at the time I felt he was the perfect guy for me. About a month into the relationship we even moved in together. We did everything together he would always do things to make me laugh this dude did everything for me and everything I asked him to do he did it.
We were together about 2 and half years we had got engaged and we were happy......until he started hanging around this guy that wasn't in my opinion friend material. It got to the point that he would rather chill with him instead of me he would leave my house just to go do things with or for him. At that time I didn't think he was do anything wrong, but about a month or so into their friendship I guess the bastard rubbed off on him cause he really was a bad influence....and he started to act strange and weird and that's when the phone calls of another woman would call my phone saying her and my man were together he wanted her and he would spend the night with her!!!!!! I asked him and like a man he denied the whole thing said she was mad cause she wanted him and he didn't want her.....Anyway one day on my way to work something in me said "ride by this girls house " I did, and it was the biggest slap in the face his car was there I called his phone called him every name in the book except for a child of God, cursed him out and told him it was over not to call me or come to my house ever again he had who he wanted and I was done with it. He called my phone all that day called my job pretended to be my father saying I needed to come home it was an emergency and he even came to my job talking about he wanted to talk. I had my mind made up there was nothing to talk about cause I knew if I got close enough to him I was going to catch a case.
After the break up we talked a few times he was still denying anything happened I knew better but never got back together.
What I don't understand is why do I always carry this baggage

Hi
Here's your previous post so others can catch up on your situation: I got to be crazy!
Ok.....me and the current boyfriend had a talk yesterday I told him how he makes me feel when he constantly question me like do.
"I put him through a test I used his car he wanted me to come back in a hour, I took my time, he eventually walked to where he had to go. I knew something like that would make him mad"
Why on EARTH would you do something like this? He knew he couldn't get angry with you or the relationship would be over.
Why was I wrong for doing that? When you've put up with crap like that for so long you feel like you have every right to go and do something that would make him mad. I wanted to make sure that he was being serious about making a change.
Testing someone is not a mature thing to do. It sets the relationship up for failure.
You're right that wasn't the mature thing for me to do I should grow up and try to handle this like an adult, but I don't know if the problem is him or me....or a little of both.
The person that is suffering in a relationship owns the problem.