Did I do the right thing

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Registered: 04-26-2007
Did I do the right thing
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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 5:44pm
just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years today.When we first started dating everything was good but after 8 mnths he started getting very clingy, calling me at least 5 times a day and if i wasent available to pick up the phone he would get mad at me. All the problems in the relationship he said were my fault, he said if I fixed my problems then everything would automatically fix itself and he wouldnt have to get mad at me so much. He said I didnt care for him as much as i used to when we first started dating and that he loved me more than i loved him and that i NEVER showed him how much i loved him, he also said i was self centerd and only cared about me. I always tried but it seemed like my best was never good enough for him. SO when we broke up today he was mad because he called me earlie on and i was getting my hair done so i couldnt get my phone, so he got mad and started yelling and cursing me out and threatining to beak up with me, so finally i just yelled back and told him he couldnt call me names and get away with it, so we broke up and he hung up the phone on me..So i just wanna know if I did the right thing and should i stay away from him or call him back??
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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 6:02pm

I'm surprised it took this long LOL

Yes, you did the right thing. And stay away from him - even if he promises to change.

It may seem odd without him for a while, but very soon your life will feel like a breath of fresh air

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Fri, 04-27-2007 - 12:07am
You ABSOLUTELY did the right thing - he is abusive, manipulative and controlling. Nothing you ever do would be good enough. Good for you for standing up to him.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 04-27-2007 - 2:17pm

Welcome to the board prettyinpink86,


I agree with the other posters. You 100% did the right thing. You don't deserve to be treated like that, no one does.


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Registered: 04-24-2003
Fri, 04-27-2007 - 4:30pm
You did the right thing and yes, stay away from him!
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 04-27-2007 - 4:44pm

Welcome to the board prettyinpink,


We can all tell you that you did the right thing (and you did) but now you have to believe it.


So, work on

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-27-2007 - 5:33pm

Yes, you did the right thing. There is never any reason to be cursed at, screamed at or in a possessive relationship like this which has become a truly abusive one. In any situation where a person cannot take resopnsibility for their own feelings and problems, but blames it all on the other one, there is only trouble on the way. No matter how hard you try, you couldn't make him happy because what was making him unhappy was inside of him. He needs to face himself and to own up to what is going on. Until he does that, he'll just stay angry and nasty and blame whoever is unfortunate enough to be in his path.


Stay away, start fresh and give yourself the respect and love you so richly deserve.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 04-28-2007
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 1:27pm
I think you did the right thing, because it seems to me like he stopped trusting you. If you call him again, make sure that you trust each other above all else, or the same thing will happen.