Did I do the right thing by leaving him?
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Did I do the right thing by leaving him?
| Sat, 01-10-2004 - 9:08am |
My boyfriend and I had been dating a year. I broke up with him briefly last summer because of his committment issues. Then he wanted to get back together with me saying he wanted me in his life but still "needed space" and couldn't promise me the future, but that we could see where things go. Naively I got back with him. So for the last 4 months we kinda slipped into a relationship again and spent the holidays together. Just when I felt we were close, all of a sudden he had a talk with me about where the relationship was going and that he knew I wanted a relationship with a future and he wasn't ready. We were back to square one again. So he said he still wanted to see me, but we needed to put up "boundaries" and stop sleeping together and try to become friends more to have a deeper emotional attachment, and possibly see other people. He wanted to get together this weekend and meet somewhere to talk more. I admit I have been guarded with him emotionally because I didn't feel secure with him. But I broke up with him and said it would be too hard to continue seeing eachother and remain friends.That one day maybe we would be, but not now. I just felt like his motivation there was to string me along and I had to cut it off. Did I do the right thing, or was it a premature move?

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It feels really lonely now and I do miss the wonderful times we had, but when I look at the big picture I see how he did mistreat me. It's funny how you can't see things when you are in the relationship. To think I felt guilt right after breaking up with him, thinking maybe I should have stayed friends to see where it went. That's how much of a hold he had on me!
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