Did I ruin everything?

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Did I ruin everything?
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Thu, 03-18-2004 - 5:35pm
Brian and I have been going out for about a month now, and met some friends for drinks last night (St. Patricks day). Well, I'd been at work all day, was exhausted, didn't eat dinner, and ended up drinking way too much. I started getting possessive when he'd talk to other girls, then when he mentioned getting a job in a new town, I proceeded to tell him that I loved him and I didn't want him to move away. Of course he did not return with the "I love you too!", I'd been hoping for and I started crying hysterically. I spent the night over at his house and this morning I apologized for my behavior the night before. He said not to worry about it, but how can I not? I really like and care for him, we have a lot of fun together, but I think I might have freaked him out a bit and I can't blame him. What should I do? Have I ruined my new relationship? I feel terrible.
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Registered: 11-01-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 5:44pm
might have freaked out a little but you certainly didn't ruin it. you spent the night at his place, you apologized, he said it's no problem, so don't keep on going back and forth about it. settle down and relax a bit and let things work themselves out.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 5:47pm

Well, I dont think so...but right now its hard to say, im sure you caught him off gaurd. Hopefully, he just chalked it up to your drunken stupor, but I woould be careful to not let it happen again anytime soon. You need to get you feelings in check, and start eating before you drink (assuming this is the only time you act this way).


Apologizing once is enough, doing so anymore than that makes you look overly anxious for him to forget about things, when in reality, you bringing it up all the time is doing the exact opposite.


Sit back, be sober and enjoy things....


Best Wishes,


 

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 8:14pm
Well, we've talked every night for the last 2 weeks or so, but tonight, no phone call. I left him a message--just telling him that I was headed to bed and would talk to him later. Thanks for the advice though, I will try to ride this one out. I wish I knew what he was thinking! I think the possessiveness probably freaked him out more than the "I love you" bit. That's never attractive; I know it made me look really insecure. I just hope he was pretty drunk too...I will see him tomorrow at an Oyster Roast. Any advice on how to act? I almost feel like not going at all.