Dilemma!!!!!

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Registered: 10-16-2007
Dilemma!!!!!
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Tue, 10-16-2007 - 3:56pm

I have been with my husband 8 years, married 4. I am 37, he is 48. He has a 19 tear old from a previous marriage. He said before we married that he would have a child with me. He pulled the plug. I met someone else who had left his relationship of 4 years for the same reason. Nothing has happened between the other guy and I however there is definite interest on both sides. He is 36, no kids and free. Husband has lately stated that he will do anything to keep us together, including have a child!!!!!!!

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: scarlett1970
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 5:02pm

Welcome to the board scarlett1970,


Until you figure out what you want to do about your marriage you need to end all contact with this other guy. Being in contact with him is only going to push you farther away from your husband. Before you met this other guy, did you have questions with your marriage? Does your husband want to have a child with you because he wants one or only to make you happy? You want to make sure that he wants a child for the right reason. Otherwise it could cause resentment.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: scarlett1970
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 6:43pm

Welcome to the board scarlett1970,


I agree with the advice Coltara gave you.