Disconnected Relationship: Married 15 years :(

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Registered: 02-01-2012
Disconnected Relationship: Married 15 years :(
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Wed, 02-01-2012 - 12:25pm

Married 15 years, I've known him for almost 17 years. Our first year was GREAT!! Spontaneous trips, just enjoying relaxing with each other. This is his 3rd marriage and my first. We have had 5 children in our lives; instant family at first with his daughter; now a wonderful young lady, her and I have NO issues at all. Biological daughter at home she is 14. We have an adopted daughter, she is 18. We did have another foster daughter for 3 almost 4 years, things went terribly wrong. She did NOT like having a sibling at all. She left on terrible terms, totaled a car, was missing for 3 days; that was a nightmare!!!! She now lives with her biological mother again. Now we have my 17 year old nephew with us. My sister just could not take care of him. That kind of sums up some background...... Now, it just that I am always the one the take care of ALL of the business of the household. I do everything!! I take the kids where they need to go, I shop for the household, and run extra errands for my husband. He does work full time. I have been disabled since 2008. I was a full time nurse. So, here lately there is no common ground. There is nothing that we just discuss..... It's all household

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Registered: 02-01-2012
Sat, 02-04-2012 - 9:42am

Thanks for your response:smileyhappy: You are right about my hubby, he is a non talker... The children do OK. I do find it difficult at times to request of them some things; when their dad does really nothing around the house. He is a good worker; but for other people. I don't understand it either; but like I said earlier it does make it hard to request some things from them, so that is why I tackle them myself.

I'm still trying to decide if I want to stay or go. You would think that it would be simple, bit it is not. I have no other family to turn to. My Mother and Father have both passed away, and my brothers don't talk to me and my sister is in no position to be of any assistance. I have her 17 y/o son raising him. I don't have any contact with my extended family either, not since my parents passing. It's sad really. But I was my dad's only heir, and I guess they are all upset with me. They really don't understand they just make accusations. Too much to really dive into. He only had $7000.00 of burial insurance, that left me paying everything else. I don't know what they think...

Just read an article on yahoo about the slabs in California.... Hmmmmm???? Just need a fresh start somewhere, a place that I can have a little peace of mind and raise my spirits and get a little respect.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 02-04-2012 - 10:27am

I used to hesitate to have my children do things around the house, but not because their father wasn't doing anything.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 02-04-2012 - 12:24pm

When you're ready to do it, you'll know!

In the meantime, you don't want to ask the children to help you because their father doesn't?

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Registered: 06-27-2007
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 1:36pm

Well good luck!

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