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| Sun, 10-17-2004 - 1:00pm |
I met Josh through my friend, and I was immediatly drawn to his sense of humor. His friend set us up sort of, and we became really good friends this summer. We were very compatible. We started hanging out a lot and he asked me out, so I said yes to humor him basically because he had been nagging me. At that point he was like my best friend; we talked every day and were really, really close. He was like the ideal boyfriend and we were both really happy with the relationship and had planned to stay together for a long time.
Well, last Thursday I went to see him and everything was fine, and after that he just stopped calling me. I talked to our mutual friend who had set us up and he told me that Josh wants to break up with me and wanted HIM to break up with me for Josh. I learned this on our anniversary (we hadn't spoken for a week at that point). I'm hearing all these awful things about Josh, that he lies all the time and about how now he likes this other girl and wants to ask her out. This is after feeing me lines about how he'd never hurt me and about how I was the best thing in his life and he was gonna try so hard not to screw it up.
I don't see what went wrong, and I'm so hurt and confused by what he did.. Theres no way I can call him.. and I'm miserable; I just don't know what to do. Does anyone have ANY advice at all?

Pianoguy's best guess is that You and Josh....had TOO MUCH TOO SOON! Granted, you might have been the perfect couple---but perhaps Josh got "cold feet?"
Whenever a woman communicates with a man everyday...one or more times...the male often feels like he's becoming...err..."controlled" in some way. This might not have been your intention at all, but in almost every situation I know...men who feel they're 'controlled' will usually disappear...or dissolve the relationship.
If Josh had an interest in somebody else...it's a safe bet that he has "played this game before"---and that the lady he's currently with will suffer the same fate that you did?
While there's no profile on you...I'll bet you have several outstanding qualities and interests that would make many men SMILE! Write Josh off as a 'bad penny'---and give yourself time to heal before you start dating again, okay?
Pianoguy
But like Pianoguy posted earlier. Write him off as a bad experience. That is what I'm planning on doing in my situation. Also, take comfort that you are not alone. There are so many other women out there suffering just like we are but we should count our blessings that we found out early on and not later in the relationship when our feelings were more extreme. I wish both of us luck and that we both may find someone that will treat us like we deserve to be treated.
Carrie