divorce over workaholic issue?

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Registered: 07-24-2003
divorce over workaholic issue?
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Mon, 02-09-2004 - 10:23am
can a workaholic improve?

DH refuses to look around for another job & his job of the last 10 yrs. requires 14 hrs. a day every day.

he gets up at 4 am to go to work and comes home at 7:30 pm.

and he can't even take a phone call during the day- nonstop meetings & supervising, etc.

the problem is in his head.

no one has to work like that forever.

his job actually UNDERPAYS him!

he's a great husband otherwise. but we can't have a normal life together- except seeing each other on weekends. and i think he should make the most he can make or choose to be together more.

it's a lose-lose situation for me.

help! i've been suffering w/ this for 3 years.

i'm about to take an out of town job & a job w/ travel - just so i'm not the only one who is actually here in this marriage.

he's made me miserable w/ his job obsession.

 Katrina
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Registered: 09-05-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 10:45am

Unfortunatly this is who he is, he likes to work, he takes pride in what he does and it is a large part of him.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 2:57pm
I have to disagree with you. The "problem" is not "in his head." It's in the fact that you've chosen someone who doesn't have the same priorities and goals in life, and in the relationship, as you do. Take him AS IS or leave him b/c unless you can be truly happy and content with a person AS IS, he is not the right person for you. The only way he will "improve" (which I take it to mean become more like you) is if HE wants to. If he doesn't, no, it will not happen. Nor should it. He has the right to make his own decisions and live as he choses.