My question is why did you stay with him for 34 years..
This is what I would do but this is me.. I would sell the house, get a divorce and split the assets.. and move to fla. and live a very nice rest of your life..
Well you're not really trapped.
I agree with music -- you're not trapped.
thanks to all for your responces. i noticed there was nobody saying to stay..lol i have alot of support from my friends when i'm ready to start the process, i can transfer to fla thru my job and like i said not afraid to be on my own. never really was on my own, maybe thats the attraction to it. yes it's scary and i know he would never make the move to file (i actually proposed to him 34 yrs ago) hell he may be thinking the same as me for all i know. the way i'll approach would be without blame but with the reality of the situation.
You may be 55, but you are in NO WAY trapped.
I'm glad to have hope that even though I'm 54 there's still hope for me--I have had dates but no relationship since I got div. and it's going on 4 yrs now.