Do I back away?

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Registered: 10-02-2008
Do I back away?
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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 12:53pm

Seeing this man for 10 months, he broke it off with me and then still seeing eachother all the time and talk everyday but no sex, kissing, nothing physical. This man has ED and I confronted him about it and offered my help. He knows he has the issue but nothing was ever resolved, so
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 5:26pm

Mutual relationships are always best - where both parties give and receive equally (or nearly equally). The question is - what are "you" getting out of being in a situation like this, where you are servicing him, not getting any response, and constantly being the one to show the emotion? It sounds disrespectful to yourself. How can this kind of situation make you feel good about who you are? You do not have to beg for love, or service someone to get it.


It's important for you to develop real self esteem, to know what is appropriate and what you deserve. I suggest you work with a counsellor to feel better about yourself and learn how to create a relationship which is healthy and uplifting for all concerned.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 6:24pm

Welcome to the board,


I think you need to talk to him one more time and let him know what it is that you need and remind him that if you don't get it that you will leave.