Do I cancel our trip?
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| Tue, 01-20-2004 - 11:07am |
Here's the problem -- I have reservations for us for the weekend at a nearby resort. He cancelled a dr's appt. to be able to leave work early and go on our getaway weekend trip. It's my birthday present to him (his b-day is next week), and I'm stuck between wanting to save my money and cancel on him and feeling like I have to go through with it because if the tables were turned, it would really hurt me if he cancelled such plans on ME. What's the right thing to do in this situation? I feel I need to pull away, and the timing is so awful. One friend suggested that I "give him a taste of his own medicine" and not call him about the trip. I should wait for him to call ME and then tell him that I just have a lot going on right now and it's a really bad time to leave town. (My grandma died last week, and aside from giving me some flowers, he abandonded me most of the weekend to hang out with some friends and to work on some project for work.) I don't know if I'm overreacting or if I'm going to slit my own throat by cancelling his birthday gift on him, but I'm not feeling confident about our relationship. He needs to show me he wants me, and I'm feeling quite unceratain about it all. One of our mutual friends even commented that my bf "knows he has the power in the relationship". I don't want to be a jerk right back to him, but I also don't want to spend my hard earned money treating him to something he may not deserve.
This is a horrible space to be in.
