Do I confess?
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Do I confess?
| Wed, 12-17-2003 - 8:07am |
Ok, the situation is that I've been going out with a wonderful man over 6 years, I can't fault him at all. We've talked about marriage and we both love each other very deeply. This is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. At the moment we're living overseas together which has brought us even closer. However, where I've been working, there's this guy who consistently flirts with me even though he knows I am committed to my partner. I, for some reason play along with the flirting. It's pretty terrible of me but this guy at work is quite charming and very funny. The other night I went out for a drink with him, which turned out to be many and before I knew it, I was quite drunk. Then this guy kissed me, and I didn't push him away but kissed him back -three times! Looking back, this was a big mistake and wish I could take it back. However I am racked with guilt and would like to clear my conscience. Should I tell my partner this happened or keep it a guilty secret? I feel terrible that I'm hiding this because our relationship has been built on trust and honesty. But if I tell my boyfriend, his image of me will be forever tarnished. What do I do?

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You need to get over the guilt and never talk about it. If you want your BF to continue trusting you and to marry you someday, then you must NEVER speak about this and you must NEVER put yourself in that situation again. I'm speaking as a woman who cheated on her first DH. I would never, ever, ever cause that much harm to someone again. I spoke the truth and I hurt more people than just my DH.
Sometimes a woman's heart must keep those secrets. Getting over the guilt will be hard, but it will be easier if you know in your heart you will never put yourself in that situation again.
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