Do i even like him anymore

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Registered: 04-17-2004
Do i even like him anymore
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Fri, 04-06-2007 - 8:24am
I got divorced over 4 years ago and moved miles away with my 2 sons to be with my new man whom i loved dearly, never loved anyone like i love him. As the years have gone by time takes away the wonderful 'in love' feeling and your left with a different kind of love, respect, comfort being with each other etc. However for quite sometime now i have been feeling like i am losing my feelings for this man. Yesterday we came to blows with an enormous row that lasted on and off all day, inbetween silences. He is extremely laid back, i am tidy and organised and i simply asked him - how about we make the most of your 2 days off over easter and we do a gardening project. Well you don't need to know how the row went but it was bad. With my doubts the last long few months, after yesterday i am left wondering whether i even like this man let alone love him. I am all alone here my family and friends all miles away, I almost went back to my ex about a year ago not necessarily because i still loved him but it was a safety net and a way out of this unhappy relationship. I still now compare my ex to my new man and sometimes although i didnt really love my ex he was a great dad and a good husband, and sometimes wish i had never got divorced. I have nothing to go back to and nowhere to go if i end this relationship. How do i go on with a man i dont even know if i like anymore. My boys have just been picked up by there dad, he is having them for a week, after they had gone i broke down in tears, part of me wanted to say can i come home, but do i really want to go back to my ex or is it just a way out of this seem to be failing relationship. \I loved him so much how can it turn out so sour. Please help and advise.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 12:37pm

Welcome to the board xsmilerx,


Is it common for you and your bf to have these types of fights? It seems like it started over nothing.


I think you need to figure out what you really want to do and what will make you happy. Maybe going to counseling would help you.


My personal opinion is you if you are truely unhappy and want out of this relationship is to move back to the town where your ex lives so your sons can be closer and have a better relationship with their father. You don't have to get back together with him since you don't really want to. You can get a job so you can support yourself and your own place to live.

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