Do I HAVE A RIGHT TO BE BOTHERED??????

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2012
Do I HAVE A RIGHT TO BE BOTHERED??????
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Fri, 03-16-2012 - 5:11pm

I'm dating a man I've now known for over a year.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 5:26pm

Blane, well the fact of the matter is that you ARE bothered.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 5:58pm

If Mom and Dad want to do things together with their child -- whether so that they can both enjoy the experience of seeing their son do X,Y, or Z --- or because it's good for their son to see that they are caring, civil, warm, supportive of each other.. or Gasp!

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 8:01pm

>>If you and BF are serious and moving toward marriage, then maybe you'd feel better if you began to join in on the family activities. <<

I would have said something similar - except that the ex wife doesn't like Blane.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 11:34pm

I assume that the child is little right?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 12:18am

You have a "right" to feel any way you want to feel.

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Registered: 11-12-2008
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 1:30am
I totally understand your situation. When I started dating my bf, he was still friends with his ex. I was intimidated by that because our relationship was so new, and we hadn't discussed where "we" were going. I tried to make due, and allow him that friendship. But after a while, we realized his ex was still emotionally attached to him, and expecting him to jump every time she needed help etc... Eventually it came out that she wanted him back, now that he'd moved on. Luckily he told her that he wasn't interested and they are no longer friends. They don't have a kid though so I was lucky.

Why does his ex hate you? Is she jealous that he's moved on? Doesn't she want him to be happy? She doesn't get to decide who he see's. Do you have a relationship with his child as well? If the relationship is serious, then you need a place in his child's life as well. Without his ex around.