Do I have a RIGHT to be mad?

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Registered: 03-07-2008
Do I have a RIGHT to be mad?
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Fri, 02-03-2012 - 9:25pm
Ok, so let me start by telling u a little bit about the relationship. I've been in a relationship with my fiancé for 4 years. This man is younger and impulsive. He took in my daughter as his own which I am grateful for. He has his flaws though. Changes jobs and cars like they are his underwears. We recently moved into our own place from living at my moms. When moving in we agreed to split everything evenly to make sure everything gets paid, since we're planning to get married soon. Everything was good.... Until 2 weeks ago. Out of nowhere he gave a day notice that he was changing his job yet again. He explained that he would be getting paid more and pursing his passion. As a loving fiancé, I sadly accepted it. To my surprise, turns out that he's not even making half of what he was making. Icing on the cake, they do not take out taxes. So here i am dealing with having to pay the majority of everything since he got paid $110!!! last week for about 30 hours of work. Ok deal with it. Move on. Huge burden but I love this man and Ive accepted him so move on. Then, one night after doing all the house chores on my own, he bust out with "you have a year to impress me"..... Implying we seperate after our lease is up if I don't "impress" him.... I'm without words on this. THEN, we're in the car one day picking up my daughter when I notice the car seat is missing. I ask him about it n he says it's in the truck. So of course I ask y? After asking about 5 times, finally he tells me that his boss gave him the "privilege" to take home one of his customers that just so happen to be a woman and her children. Basically if i wouldnt have noticed and asked 5 times, he wouldnt have told me. so... Obviously I'm upset. He thinks I don't have the RIGHT to be upset at all. What do u think?

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 02-04-2012 - 3:26am

YOU are paying most of the expenses and YOU have a year to impress him. OMG... can you say ARROGANT. And that story about hiding the car seat in the trunk to take home a client and her kids. Don't know if I'd buy that one at all. You have HUGE RED FLAGS flying all over the place here. I only hope you see them clearly before marrying this lazy, arrogant manbaby.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 02-04-2012 - 1:00am

Do you have a RIGHT to be mad?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 02-03-2012 - 11:33pm

I would not accept the new job thing at all.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 02-03-2012 - 11:16pm

Firstbabyanya, his boss asking him to take home a customer and her kids is very much a small issue.