Do I have to tell my husband EVERYTHING?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-01-2007
Do I have to tell my husband EVERYTHING?
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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 9:24pm

I've been married now for 13 years and our marriage has slowly deteriorating.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 9:47pm

Hi;

I cant help but think this guy sounds like a control freak.. Does he exhibit any other kind of this behavior like tell you what to wear or where to go or things like that?

I say this because I was married and now divorced a controlling man.. I would always have to

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 10:27pm

I agree that your DH is a little off--if you are an adult and you're both working you should not have to tell him before you buy every little thing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 11:58pm

You're husband is a controller.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2010
Sun, 11-06-2011 - 1:30am

Weazlegirl-

Hi. While it is

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 11-06-2011 - 1:07am

I'm with Trenner here - can potentially see both sides.

I agree that you don't have to tell him about all purchases.

However, I think your 'nothing' response could be rude in some circumstances.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-01-2007
Sun, 11-06-2011 - 10:38am

Listen, I know I'm not infallible in this relationship - I have flaws.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 11-06-2011 - 1:00pm

I stick to

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2010
Sun, 11-06-2011 - 6:00pm
weazlegirl1974 wrote:

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 11-06-2011 - 6:28pm

Yeah; This whole thing smells like a rat to me..

It could be def. pathological whatever that means. I am assuming your hubby needs help.

He could also be trying to make you think you are crazy.. which is called in abusive terms "crazymaking".

Yeah; you need to get to therapy asap .. I think you should go alone first so that hubby doesnt or cant have a chance to manipulate you or sabatogue it..

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Sun, 11-06-2011 - 10:47pm

I would flat out ask him WHY he is asking such questions and testing you?

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