Do I just give up?
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Do I just give up?
| Tue, 05-01-2007 - 3:45pm |
Hello! I am sure that you have heard this situation quite a few times, but I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We are currently on a break so that he can figure out why he is not comfortabale marrying me and if he can get there. He is essentially waiting for the "click" moment that he has heard guys have. While he says that he does want to marry me, that he just needs to get 100% positive about it and that he is optimistic that he will be able to go there, I can't get comfortable with that. I really want to marry this guy, but don't want to stay any longer if it is not going to happen. I feel that I have tried to be patient but I have hounded the guy about this for the past year. My question, should I leave, and potentially walk out on the best thing in my life or should I stay and try not to hound him about it?

3 years is a long, long time. If it hasn't "clicked" by now, if he doesn't know who you are and how he feels, then what in the world is he and you waiting for? It seems to me that he is simply stalling, and not ready for marriage. Of course you want to marry and go forward, that is natural. To me, it seems like a waste of time to stay in this place with him any longer. It's not about hounding him. You don't want to have to hound a person to marry you. You want to be with someone who loves you and is thrilled and honored to have you be his wife.
Go forward. He doesn't deserve you.
Best wishes,
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If he really loves you, your pronouncement could make him *^#!!~ or get off the pot.