Do I tell him?

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Do I tell him?
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 11:41am
Hi,

I'd appreciate any advice please. Here's my situation -

I was with my ex-bf for 4 years. We broke up 1 1/2 years ago because we both needed to grow up and mature. Through that time, we have remained friends. We've both dated other people, but nothing has every worked out. I can't speak for him, but I know that a lot of my relationships haven't worked out because I still had feelings for my ex. And recently, I've come to the realization that I'm still truly in love with him.

So here's my question...Do I tell him? And if so, how?

I don't want to ruin the relationship/friendship that we have now, but I honestly want him back. I am still head-over-heels in love with him. I can't get him out of my mind. We had our problems, but most of them stemmed from the fact that we were young when we met, and our relationship just never matured. Am I crazy for thinking that we could work? Should I just keep my feelings to myself?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: debzy2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 4:35pm
anyone?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: debzy2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 5:02pm
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You know him better than all of us, so you would have to pick the right moment, gauge his mood, etc.

If he's not interested and you can't resolve your feelings for him, it will be hard to maintain a friendship as you will always want more than just a friendship.

I hope someone else has some good advice for you.


Carrie