Do people really change?
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| Tue, 06-26-2007 - 4:10pm |
Hey everyone,
I really need some advice/imput/suggestions if anyone has any... I'll give you all a little background..
My boyfriend and I have been together just less than a year, and overall things have been great. We're living together, he's sweet, generous, romantic, etc. A couple months ago, I found a text message from another girl. I confronted him about it and we decided that we'd work past it. I let him know that there would be no secrets and we would have no privacy for as long as I felt necessary (ie. checking his email, phone messages, facebook, etc.) So for months I didn't find anything an I started checking less frequntly. Today however, I checked his messages on found a message from a girl saying that she needs to know whats going on with them and he can't keep doing this to her and to either pick her or me (and she used me name).
I confronted him once again and he is denying everything. Telling me that he has no idea who this is or what she's talking about. I broke up with him because I don't believe him. I think he's just not telling me because regardless of weather or not I know who she is, I would still break up with him.
If he does confess.. do you really think people can change? Do you think that he deserves another chance?
I know in my head its the RIGHT thing to do to leave him (otherwise he's making a fool of me, not him), but its just really hard to take that leap. I'll always wonder "what if?" What if we stayed together? What if he's telling the truth?
Anyone that has been through this or can give me any advice, etc. would be great!
Thanks,
Mots
ps. yes, I pressed '5' while listening to the message, and it just came back as an unknown number

Welcome to the board mots_girl,
People only change if they want to. My first reaction is to say that he is lying to you. If he isn't lying, than it would have to be a girl that knew your name and knew you would check his messages. Which seems far fetched. Listen to your gut on this. Sorry you have to go through this.
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I'm inclined to believe he's lying on this one.