Do we belong together 26 years later?
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Do we belong together 26 years later?
| Tue, 05-08-2007 - 12:11am |
My husband I got married when we were very young - 18 & 20. We have been married 26 years now and our relationship is terrible. We have no marriage. We are friendly but there is no relationaship. We have 2 grown daughters and one who is 5. We have never had good communication in our marriage but its just gotten worse. I try but he hates to talk... we have had a few successful emails but that's it. He used to be the most sexual man I had ever known about but now he rarely wants it. I used to be introverted about sex and now I'm not but our timing is off. I keep wondering if living with him is worth staying together for our daughter... I've done that for years. I do love him but I am not in love with him and vice versa. He will not talk to me about anything... we don't even argue. We just exist together. Our interests are completely different, our lifestyles - I am a health nut and concerned about my body and health and he is not, I love to have fun and go out and socialize and he hates it, I want to travel and enjoy and he wants to sit on the couch and watch tv or do things around the house. I am frustrated. At this point in our lives I feel like we should have evolved and grown to a different space and instead we've grown further apart. I just don't know if we should keep tihs up. He's ok with things the way they are (from what I can tell) and I hate it. For him,life is comfortable, we have a home and children and make a good living but he feels no need to develop or grow our relationship. I am at a loss... he won't go to counseling and we essentially live separate lives... I feel that life is too short to let it pass by... I always wonder if i have unrealistic expectations of our marriage and relationship and just expect too much from him.

Welcome to the board lorilea8326,
I think you should go to counseling by yourself if he will not go with you. It will give you a good place to vent and figure out what you want to do. The therapist could even have some suggestions for you on how to get your husband to open up.
Do you have any interests you share? Would either of you be willing to get learn more about the other person's interests?
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