Does a break mean its over?

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Registered: 11-20-2007
Does a break mean its over?
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Sat, 01-26-2008 - 7:23pm
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 01-26-2008 - 7:36pm

Under most circumstances, taking a break is the first step in breaking up.

This guy may love you with all of his heart, but normally in the right relationship he would feel comfortable confiding in you and having you there with him through whatever issues he is facing. The fact that he's pushing you away because he needs space to himself is a little worrisome, but it's also understandable.

These are generalizations and he could totally bounce back from this break. I guess that remains to be seen.

You seem very healthy in your relationship attitude and I commend you on that. It's great that you're so supportive of him making friends of his own and giving him the time he needs to sort things out while living your own life. I really hope this guy comes back to you, if it makes any difference I think he will. You sound like a good person to be with.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Sat, 01-26-2008 - 11:42pm

'I can understand all of this, but what I don't understand is why he's pushing me away at the toughest time in his life.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 01-26-2008 - 11:44pm

Welcome to the board goddess_apple9,


Consider reading this:


When he asks for space (aka, "a break")

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 01-27-2008 - 12:26am

Frankly, if my boyfriend felt that he couldn't/didn't want to lean on me when times got tough, I'd end the relationship.


Goddess, the most important thing here is you knowing that you don't have to accept having a 'break'.

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Sun, 01-27-2008 - 3:46pm
I hate to be the party pooper here, but if someone you have been dating for over a year decides that he cant focus onthe relationship because he has problems...then he is not someone for you over the long haul.
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Registered: 11-20-2007
Sun, 01-27-2008 - 4:34pm

Thanks all.


Well, to answer the question about the therapist, the answer is I have no idea.

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Mon, 01-28-2008 - 11:18am

It won't be the same set of circumstances next time, but life always throws us curve balls.